All antisocial acts are rooted in a desire to free the victim from an identity he is perceived as "capable of being more than". It is like the desperate effort to shake some sense into a child, insane though it seems.
This explains the miracle of personal growth, which is, at one level, a contradiction. It is personal cleansing or releasing from identity that frees one to become, newly, the next identity outward. And then begin again the relearning of the lessons that identity may have had to learn, which it did not, which resulted in its abandonment behind a screen of unknowing.
There are lessons only in the presence of identities.