Meditative Processes

This series of three training manuals focus on what a skilled practitioner can do to help other people, particularly those who come to her as clients for formal sessions. However, there is a whole lot that the person can do by herself without needing any facilitator.

As a matter of fact, what we are aiming for is that the client will become self-sufficient; able to deal with life on her own without getting bogged down. We have no intention of making people dependent on a process facilitator to tell them what to do.

The facilitator is a consultant who helps people along on their paths of self-discovery and self-improvement. The paths are people's own; they are their own authorities.

The best facilitator gets tools into the hands of her clients. It is valuable to do good work and trick clients into changing their minds and dropping their limitations. But what is even better is to give them tools that they can use on their own whenever they need to in the future. That produces self-generated change that will keep accelerating.

The individual client is the person who needs to be empowered. Don't keep the power for yourself. Give it freely away, there is an endless suppy of it. Empowerment is when you show the client new expansive possibilities and you put the controls in her own hands.

Generally speaking, any tool that you use on a client includes principles that she can use on her own. Not necessarily in the same way, but the underlying principles can always be used by oneself.

When you do a technique, don't keep the client in the dark about the principles. You don't have to give away all your professional secrets, but the philosophy should never be a secret. If you have just done a successful polarity integration, that is a great time to discuss the theory of fragmentation and integration. The client will have experiential knowledge of it already, so she can quite easily understand it and start being aware ot it. That doesn't mean she will go around doing the full polarity integration procedure, but she can work on getting parts in better communication with each other. And she can notice the same thing in others.

Re-experiencing of incidents provides an opportunity for discussing how one can be freed from fixed responses of the past. One can always go and experience things from different viewpoints. And one can always look for the lesson in any experience. The client can with great benefit do that in the present whenever she is in a somewhat stressful situation. Or she can do it lightly with parts of her past that are available to her.

People can reframe themselves. For example, they can take any situation and find what is positive about it, what makes it a learning experience. They can get used to the idea that any apparently limiting situation opens the door to new possibilities.

Perceptual processing can be done with excellent benefit by oneself. Changing of perceptual distinctions or the swish pattern are wonderful tools that a person can use anytime. She might learn in session that she feels insecure when she has a small, colorless picture of herself, and she feels bold and adventurous when she has a big, colorful picture of herself. She can simply bring back the big, colorful picture whenever she feels insecure. She doesn't need a facilitator for that.

It doesn't quite make sense to do dialoguing on oneself. At least not in the sense of talking back and forth with oneself. However, the underlying idea of continuing to perceive something from different angles until it is resolved or until one knows what to do, is perfectly valid also by oneself.

Techniques that people do on themselves are typically lighter and more integrated than facilitator/client techniques. For one reason because any person has some built-in self-protective mechanisms. There will be some fuses that blow if she gets into something she can't handle. If a person tries to handle something that is over her head she will usually fall asleep or lose track of it or something.

If one heeds the warning signals it is quite safe to explore one's own reality. The subconscious auto-answer mechanisms will tend to hand out material that it is appropriate to look at, and if one doesn't go any further with it than one feels good about, then the results are almost always good.

There are limits to how well a person can step back and look neutrally at her own reality. And it is difficult to change something that one is BEING. That is why we need facilitators at all, to provide the outside neutral viewpoint while one gets involved in things. And that is why the person by herself will mainly do techniques that she is able to address in a balanced manner.

Through facilitated transformational processing a person can become more integrated. She will be more whole and less fragmented. That will make it much easier for her to work on her own. There will be fewer areas she would have to stay out of because she isn't balanced there. She will be more able to both get involved and to maintain a rational perspective on what is going on.

What it is always safe for a person to do is some kind of meditation. Meditation can be done at many levels. Most basically it is simply relaxation. More advanced meditators might address and process anything whatsoever in meditation.

It is a very good idea to help clients to be able to meditate by themselves. It puts them more at cause, it makes them more responsive to their own internal signals, and it makes them more able to step out of the noise of everyday living.

Meditation is processing. Typical meditation consists of a simple recursive technique. The basic rules of processing apply. It is therefore a good idea to introduce the client to some of these principles. Such as, staying on one subject at a time, staying involved, finishing what one starts, not judging what comes up, etc.

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