This module is to sort out issues on time. Particularly giving away one's power by putting ones attention in the past or future in ways that aren't useful.
1. Past and Future -
Here we switch back and forth between attention on what one should have done in the past and what one needs to do later. Hopefully, in contrast, it becomes more clear that the action is in the present.
"What should you have done?"
"What do you need to do later?"
2. Later -
Deciding to do something 'later' or 'when I have time' is generally a way of not facing the actual decision. 'Later' never comes, there is always only Now. There is no time 'later'. Examine this phenomenon. Find examples of what the client decided to do later, but never got around to, and they still are in the category of what should be done 'later'.
"Tell me some things you planned to do 'later'"
3. Pre-planned Future -
Look at to what extent the person's future has already been spoken for, because of what she "must" do or has promised to do, etc. A future is most useful if it is flexible and open and one can change it. It can be very limiting to believe that it has to be a certain way.
"What part of your future is already occupied?" (pre-planned, committed)
4. Elsewhere -
Attention is most effective in the present. It can be very useful to recover attention that is elsewhere. Depending on what you find, re-experiencing of incidents or soul retrieval might be done.
"What part of your attention is somewhere else in time?"
5. Opportunities -
Get the person to look at opportunities and resources that area are available to her today. Get her used to looking for them in the present, rather than in the past or the future.
"Tell me some opportunities you have today"
6. Unfinished -
Find out what the person has in her space that is unfinished. Find out why, what is stopping her, what isn't she responsible for, what is she putting in the future instead of here, etc.
"What do you have in your area that is unfinished?"
7. Procrastination -
Work over the subject of procrastination. What is she procrastinating, what has she procrastinated before. How is she doing it, how could she do it differently. A threshold process might be a good idea, building up the horrors of procrastination, and then leading towards a future of doing things right away.
"Is there anything you procrastinate?"
"Where would you be today if you hadn't procrastinated?"
8. Time Line #
Help the person find out how her time line is organized. For example, ask her to think of something that she does very regularly, like brush her teeth. Ask her to remember doing it earlier today or SEE herself doing it today, then yesterday, then a week ago, then a month, then last year, then 10 years ago. Then ask her where the different pictures are in relation to each other. That is a little more difficult with people who aren't aware of their pictures, but it can still be done. You can also watch the person's hand gestures and listen to her language to get clues on how she organizes time spatially. Make sure to map out the future also. Common methods could be as a line in front with time moving from left to right, or as a line with the past going backwards and the future forward and the person right in the middle in the present. Or as a curve with the past curving out to one side and the future to another. But all kinds of arrangements are possible. Some people just has the past in a big pile behind them. There is always SOME way they are organizing it. The idea is simply to find out how and then use that knowledge to help them with. Like, you can make nice visualizations in the place they put the future and so forth.
9. Time Orientation #
There are three main ways most people relate to time:
- In-Time: Only paying attention to the present, not having any overview of time.
- Through-Time: Seeing everything as continuous periods, good overview, but attached from it.
- Between-Time: Seeing everything as strings of similar events, distinct from everything else.
Find out what our client is mainly doing. Or what she is doing in different situations. Then exercise the other methods. Each one has advantages for different purposes. Build up the resources necessary to do each one. That is, visualize pictures, adjust the PDs to accomplish different ways of dealing with them. The idea is to become more flexible, so that one has choice in how to relate to time.
10. Later #
Get the person to make a list of everything she has put in the future because they aren't pleasant or fun or interesting to do now. Take up each one and make her decide what to do with it. Do it, file it (in the past), or trash it (forget about it).
11. Dying Tomorrow $
Get the person to go through her unfinished affairs and complete them, as if she was going to die tomorrow. That is, have her put things in order, deliver unfinished communications, etc. Not just imagine doing it, even though that would be a nice process too. But get her to actually complete the actions.
12. Commit $
Get the person to make up her mind on anything in her life she is undecided about. I.e. anything that she has there, but one is not committed to being responsible for it. Either use it or lose it. Have a dialogue about it from the perspective that she HAS to either do it or give it up. If necessary work with her in her actual area committing to things, calling people, etc.
13. Do it Now #
Drill the 'do it now' principle. Go through the person's personal space with her. Exercise handling particles according to: do it, delegate it, ditch it. Organize the person's space as necessary. Look through her unfinished cycles and get her to complete them, give them to somebody else, or drop them.
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