HURT EMOTIONALLY
Firstly, feel the pain. Write it out as fully as you can. Find what you expected
to happen that didn't, and/or what you didn't expect to happen that did!
The feeling of hurt comes from a perceived separation from love. It comes from expecting
something which you felt was a need or a want, and it was not given. It comes from
expecting another to be, or to feel, or to do in a certain way
toward you, and having them be different from your expectations. It feels like a
break in trust. It feels like a fracturing of self esteem and self love. At root,
it is a break or interruption in your agreement about how things are, a break in
communication, or a break in the closeness that you felt with someone.
It is the suddenness or the unexpectedness that actually produces the hurt. Realizing
fully what the break was, that it was a fracturing of agreement, of communication
or of closeness with someone can miraculously restore your clarity about your actual
condition.
Steps
Ask:
1. Was it a break of agreement?
2. Was it a break of communication?
3. Was it a break of closeness or feeling of love with someone?
4. Was it a break in understanding?
5. Which ever you decide that it is reaffirm that that is what it was.
Ask yourself whether there was an earlier time that you experienced a similar hurt.
If you find one, feel the pain of the experience, write it down, and identify it
as above. The resulting clarity is greatest when you have found the earliest example
of a particular kind of break.