A Case History

This is a sequence of sessions for a single client over about a year and a half, doing a session every couple of weeks or so. This is a person who had done no other self-improvement practice before, had hardly thought about what life was about, and was very focused in the monotonous stress of everyday life. No commitment was made to go through with any particular program, no explanation of anything was made in advance, the only agreement made was the appointment for the following session.

1: She had been in an argument with her boss and felt really bad, because the boss was always supposed to be right. We looked at the perceptual distinctions of feeling bad. We did a swish to how she would like it to be. I reframe the situation so that she realizes the boss's positive intention. We then add some needed resources to the incident and experience how it would have been with those. And then we future pace that change in her. She feels much better.

2: She is worried about making mistakes at work. I get the perceptual distinctions that makes her feel bad. I drill her in changing those, moving the picture further away and so forth. We take the statement she says to herself "Oh my god, what should I do?" and have her say it in many different tonalities until she can't feel the same way about it. Then I reframe mistakes as an accomplishment necessary for learning, and make her promise to do at least 3 mistakes per day. Then I have her visualize a future version of her, the way she want to be, in great detail. And then I have her walk along a time line on the floor simulating the journey towards that future self. She feels much more relaxed, and is emotionally touched by the newfound positiveness of it.

3: Nothing particularly on her mind, so I ask her to interchangeably notice something about me and about herself, to get her more present. She becomes more aware and open. She gets to think about former close friends she left behind. We look at some pleasurable memories with friends. Then I ask if she left a part of her behind there, as she mentioned that she didn't have that amazed, excited quality any more. She did, but she doesn't feel ready to bring it back at this point. We then visualize a future direction that will accomplish that. Feels much better about it.

4: Says she is doing fine, no particular issues. We start doing simple, positive stuff. Positive memories, looking at what she would like to do in the future. During that some negative fears about the future come up. We pick one, the fear of being crushed by a truck. We process it as a future incident until it changes and there no longer is any fear. During that she experiences an out-of-body viewpoint and get really spaced out. We end by grounding her, but she is still really amazed about it.

5: We continue looking at what she would like to do in the future, in 1 week, 1 month, etc. It becomes clear that she is playing victim a lot. We look at that as a polarity, which is Being Victim versus Being Strong. It gets integrated, we futurepace the change and she is happy about that.

6: Talks about persistent problem with parents, who aren't talking to her. I get her to think of some problems that are bigger, smaller, or comparable to that problem. She is feeling guilty about the situation. I reframe it to put her more at cause, asking her how long she plans on feeling guilty. She realizes she will get through it. She has an unwanted feeling and we re-experience a childhood incident with her parents. and add positive resources. We futurepace and she has a more positive outlook.

7: Says situation is improving with parents. We go back to the process looking at what she would like to do in 1 week, 1 month, etc., as it never got finished. She realizes that she doesn't have to think and worry as much as she has done, but can take action more.

8: She has changed to having a more positive outlook, knowing that things are getting better, so we now move on to the general subject of Communication. We go over what she likes to talk about, and ways that one generally could communicate.

9: We continue with the communication module. We go over types of people who communicate, different ways of communicating, and locations to communicate from. She got realizations about the role of thinking in her life, and about that one can communicate from anywhere.

10: What do others talk or not talk to her about. We also discussed how to deal with critical remarks, being able to reframe them by recognizing their positive intentions.

11: Says she is afraid of making mistakes and disappointing people. We dialogue about it and get it reframed to that anything that happens is something to learn from. Mistakes are learning experiences. We future pace that, how much she will be learning in the future.

12: What does she talk or not talk to others about. It comes up that she isn't communicating to her parents about how she is doing. We dialogue about that specifically. She decides to write a letter to her parents.

13: What can she say or not say to her mom and dad. Problem with them becomes reframed as something she is moving beyond.

14: Says it takes her a long time to make decisions. We get the perceptual distinctions and the strategy she uses to make a decision. We streamline it and drill her in doing it faster. Then I ask her repeatedly to make a decision, freeing up the ability to do so. Then futurepace it, looking at how it will be when she makes many fast decisions.

15: A friend died in an airplane crash during the week. She was mostly concerned about the friend's girlfriend who was devastated about it. We re-experience the whole incident thoroughly from all the different viewpoints available. She has no problem picking up hidden information about what actually happened and so forth. She feels fine about it and she can see the positive lessons in it for everybody.

16: She had worries and arguments with her husband about buying a house. We discuss meta programs and how to translate between different ways of thinking. she feels she has better tools now. Just before closing she mentions that she was also sad because she got a letter from her parents, stating that they don't consider her their daughter anymore. We don't have time to go over it, but just quickly get it reframed that it is positive that there is some communication.

17: She gathered herself together and spoke with her mom on the phone, and things are fine. She is communicating much better than ever before with her and is really happy about it. We go on with the communication module, covering different attitudes used in communicating.

18: Communications requiring effort. Reminds her of how she is getting embarrassed when she is doing something wrong. We trace it back to an incident when she was a kid and her parents got upset because she offended somebody. An outgoing, aggressive part she had before was left behind. We do soul retrieval on it. She goes back and finds the part as an independent little girl in the playground. She holds her hand and plays with her, but we can't get any further than that. The little girl is too different from how she is now and doesn't just want to go back with her.

19: We continue working with the outgoing, independent little girl part. We grow her up through the time line, seeing how she develops. She then interacts with the grownup version. All of this is very detailed and real for her, even to how she is dressed, how she looks, how she speaks, etc. The other part has distinctly different characteristics and interests, all that she doesn't otherwise manifest in life. They are still not quite ready for merging, but they become girlfriends.

20: Continuing communication module. Mysterious communications, communications about sex, etc.

21: Who she would or wouldn't want communicating to her. People who are mad at her seems to be particularly an item. We get the feeling/reaction associated with it and do re-experiencing of incidents. Then we do soul retrieval bringing back a lost part that enjoys talking to other people and helping them.

22: Says she has been communicating a lot more to people recently and it feels really good. Then we look at who she would or wouldn't want to communicate to. We do some reframing along the way on how there is always something she can do for people.

23: She is depressed about the company she works for doing badly. We reframe it to a positive situation. We get perceptual distinctions on what she feels. We dialogue about the problem and she realizes that she doesn't have to have a problem and feel bad, it is the company's problem.

24: What doesn't she want to communicate about. Holds herself back from saying what she really wants. We dialogue, reframe it. We do a blowout of a feeling in her stomach, being afraid of making mistakes. She realizes it is easier to just do what she wants, rather than holding herself back. Better to do something than just wait for the perfect thing to do.

25: Hesitating to take a decision about her job. What would happen if she did, if she didn't, etc. Reframing regret about decisions to regret about no decisions. It is easier to just take action. Futurepacing. She comes up with an empowering metaphor for herself of just jumping into the water.

26: What doesn't she want to talk about. She hesitates about stuff she doesn't know about, having to think about it first. We dialogue about it, and she realizes that she doesn't get to know something she doesn't know just by thinking. I ask her repeatedly to make up lies. We futurepace how it would be when she is more spontaneous and uses her intuition.

27: We work on creativity. I exercise her saying words out of the blue, and we improvise a story together. We discuss thinking and intuition.

28: Again we dialogue about thinking and about doing new things. She feels some inabilities in learning. We develop a new strategy for learning languages, noticing the feedback, asking questions, etc.

29: What doesn't she think about. Reframe to that the map is not the territory. Realizations on how people operate out of their maps, rather than out of the real world.

30: Anything she doesn't want to communicate about. Doesn't want to talk about her work situation, because she can't do anything about it. We reframe it as an opportunity to be more in control and do what she wants. Bigger reframe and discussion about life giving one the opportunities one needs. Taking the gifts that life is giving.

31: She has gotten good results on communication, is much more open and communicative in life. We go on to the general subject of problems in life. Where would she be willing to be or not willing to be? She has realizations about how she is more there now, able to say no, and so forth.

32: A bit guilty that she is not doing more at her job. Reframing to that she is getting the experiences she needs, and it serves her best to be relaxed and refreshed now.

33: What is she willing to perceive or not perceive. She is not willing to accept her own body. We repeatedly look at what she can accept/not accept about her body. She will interact more with her body.

34: She gets tired when there are too many things to handle. We get the perceptual distinctions of the tiredness. That then leads to an unmoving incident with a very heavy body. She gradually gets to perceive that from an outside view, getting very light. She becomes very lightheaded and feeling free. We end with grounding.

35: She had been thinking since last session about what she really is, a mind, a body, a spirit, etc. We have a discussion about moving in and out of bodies. She is blown away by the spiritual mysteries she is noticing opening up to her. "Wow, I've really been asleep".

36: She comes in talking about 3D pictures, and we use that to pursue the theme of how one can experience things differently just by changing perspectives. She states that she really feels she has the power now, that life is all up to her, and she feels really good about it.

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